Why your beliefs matter more than your experience

Why your beliefs matter more than your experience

If you’ve read most of the articles I’ve written, you’ll see that I keep talking about the importance of your beliefs when it comes to any kind of manifestation work but I’ve said very little about the impact of your experiences in life.

The reason for that is very simple. One of the most influential things that we carry with us throughout our lives is the beliefs we develop from our experiences, and not the actual experiences themselves.

Two people can have what really amounts to exactly the same experience and develop totally different beliefs as a result from it. Or they can process the same experience in radically different ways according to the beliefs they already carry.

Let’s take a common experience, one we all know and have been through in our lives, and that’s being single. We’ve all been single at some point and as we can all react differently, you just have to conclude that there is nothing inherent within being single that means we have to respond in any one way at all!

To illustrate what I mean, let’s take two fictitious people, Sally and Karen.

When it comes to being single, Sally trusts that the universe will deliver the right person at the right time and thinks that being single is a time to treasure as being a period in which she can indulge herself totally. She enjoys being free to follow her own bliss in whatever form that takes. She doesn’t feel lacking in love as she has lots of friends and people that she cares about deeply in her life and she knows they care about her too. She believes that relationships are really important but that they don’t define who she is and is just as happy single as she is with a partner. She believes that she is responsible for creating her own happiness.

Karen feels okay in general about herself, but there’s a lot she’d change if she could and she really can’t imagine why anyone would genuinely like her. Having a partner does make her feel better about herself. In her view, it tells her and the world that she is worth something, and without someone in her life she questions her true worth and she experiences shame when she goes along to yet another formal function without a date and has to make excuses about why she doesn’t have someone special in her life. Everywhere she looks, she sees happy couples and wonders if the universe is punishing her by making sure she’s still alone.

You can see how their beliefs would create a totally different reality for each of them, which would in turn impact on their vibration and generate very different attractor forces when it comes to actually sending out a signal for a loving relationship. I’ve used extreme examples quite deliberately so that you can see the contrast, but many of us can operate with a mix of beliefs, some that support us in keeping our vibration high and some that we would probably want to root out and tackle!

If you’re not sure what your hidden beliefs are, it’s quite easy to do a bit of forensic digging to find out. All you need to do is take how you feel and ask yourself, what would I have to believe in order to feel the way that I do about this?

Understanding the influence of our beliefs puts you in a position of power to tweak them in order to raise your vibration. For example, you can’t change what has happened in your past, but you can change your beliefs about it, and when you do that, you transform how you feel. And when you transform how you feel, you alter your vibration which in turn affects what you attract in the future. In a nutshell, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by changing your beliefs to those that empower you!

Loads of love,

Michele x