Fight the fear and create your future

Change can be scary for some people but it is also the pathway to our liberation. As one of my favourite authors, Anais Nin, said “And then the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

If there is something in your life you want to let go of, from an old relationship to an unhealthy pattern, try asking yourself these five questions to get yourself out of the maze of doubt and into anew found freedom.

What am I no longer willing to have as part of my life?

What do I want instead?

What stops me saying goodbye to what I no longer want once and for all?

What will it cost me if I continue to have this in my life?

What do I commit to doing to bring in or create space for the new?

Even if you sit there for an hour not knowing what to write in response to any question, breathe, relax, and know that you know the answer, even if you aren’t conscious of it yet, and it will come.

The most important thing is to do something, no matter how small, even if you can’t do it with a full heart and total conviction.  Don’t wait until you believe change is possible. Don’t wait to feel good to do something that will do you good.  Do it, and eventually you’ll catch up with yourself and build momentum to go on and make your own dreams come true.

This is particularly powerful if you are trying to move on from a relationship that, for whatever reason, has ended.  I have a friend who gave up her entire life and everything she owned and went and lived in a jungle when she had tried everything she knew to move on from an ex and nothing seemed to work.    That was the start of her finding a new life full of wonderful things she couldn’t have imagined before.  You don’t have to take such drastic steps, but you do need to show the same quality of commitment!

Each week after starting this process, revisit what you have written and answer the following questions.

What new things have come into my life as a result of the actions I have taken?

What have I noticed about me, or the way that others respond to me, since making changes?

Is there anything else I can do to support myself in creating my new life?

Let me know how you get on!