Spiritual guidelines for the web. Dealing with Trolls

I absolutely love the way that new technology has opened up the world and brought it to our fingertips, we can connect with people we never dreamed of meeting and even use it for cosmic ordering but I think it’s important for us to understand that things happen in virtual reality at a rate, speed and intensity that leaves a lot of what goes on face to face between us standing.  Whether you are a member of a social networking site or just following someone on Twitter, there are a few things that I think we all need to be aware of when we go on line.

1/Remember the Toltec wisdom expressed in the Don Miguel Ruiz book The Four Agreements and  be impeccable with your word. What we put out into the virtual world can be snatched up and spiral into misunderstandings or gossip that can literally fly around the globe in seconds.  Express yourself with care and be aware of how much you might hurt someone if you follow an urge in the moment to say something about someone else or pass on gossip that might not even be true.  Even if you write something in an email to someone else, it’s amazing how many people have clicked the wrong button and sent it to the person they were taking about and not the one they meant to send it to.  Post on the understanding that what you say about anyone will find its way to them as that’s very likely to be the case, so think twice before you write about how your new manager drives you mad or you can’t stand your sister in law’s table manners!

2/When we are on line we sometimes have to remind ourselves of another of the Four Agreements and avoid taking anything personally.  For example, you might post a blog and get a response from a total stranger that feels hostile or hurtful, but it really
isn’t directed at you – it can’t be, because the other person or people only know that part of you that you present on line.  Some people fall into the trap of becoming what is now called trolls and appear to thrive on getting involved in on-line feuds and maybe they are quite happy to take part in that kind of cut and thrust, even when it goes beyond being good natured, but you might not be built that way.  If someone says something to you on line that you find hurtful, avoid any temptation to respond in kind, even out of what might feel like a need and a right to self defence.  Huna wisdom tells us that energy flows where attention goes, and you inevitably find that if you step back, things die down a lot more quickly.  If you feel that you really must make a response, wait until you feel calm and centred before you do. most people who send out anger and cruelty have a wound and they are really fighting themselves. Our natural state is one of love.

3/ People who send poison messages or are cruel online need to look at the nature of that energy. Even if they would not do it in ‘real’ life that kind of negativity not only spreads to the ‘victim’ of their rant but also poisons their own energy. We are like giant magnets and draw toward us what we have within us. If you find yourself being nasty or cruel look within to see what wound you have which is creating that energy. Do you feel unlovable? Have you felt as if someone has taken away your self esteem? Do you feel powerless in the real world? Working through it and only sending out that which you wish to receive and retraining your mind to KNOW you are lovable and a valid part of the whole can not only change your online life but also your day to day reality.

4/Remember that when you are on line you are dancing with the whole.  What are you putting out there?  What kind of energy will that create?  How can you use this amazing technology to deepen connections, exchange wisdom, share knowledge and reach out to the very best of what we are?

5/Be real and keep it real.  You are a unique shard of this amazing whole so there is no need to adopt a mask, put on a persona or pretend to be anything other than who you are.

Loads of love,

Michele x