How To Recognise a Past Life Connection

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We’ve all been in the situation where we’ve met someone new but have this immediate and deep connection – sometimes to the point of being able to anticipate what they are going to say next – or feeling as if they’ve been in our life forever. Often this can mean they have been in a spiritual sense as this kind of ‘instant karma’ we feel with certain people is exactly that. A karmic, past life connection and the level of comfort and feeling we already ‘know’ someone is merely our shared history catching up with us and playing out in this lifetime.

These kind of past-life connections are easy to spot but what about others that may also stretch across several lifetimes and involve soul promises, but which may not be quite so obvious? How do we recognise them?

First of all, we need to understand that often the souls with whom we have the deepest connection and with whom we have chosen to learn and grow with are the ones who are there to teach us the most profound lessons. And sometimes these lessons are not easy. Just because you have known one another in a past life does not mean it will all be love and happy endings in this one. There can be many reasons for this. One or both of us can fail to learn the lesson or forgive on a soul level. Until this happens we will keep coming back – like students who have to re-take an exam, until we get it ‘right’. Also, we often have themes we have chosen to work through in this life and we may have several ‘soul mates’ – and I use that term in the broadest possible sense as a ‘soul mate’ is not necessarily a romantic partner but someone with whom we have chosen to form a connection with over several lifetimes; who have chosen to appear at various times in our life in order to help us learn a particular lesson. So, this all this in mind, what are the signs we should look for in even our most challenging relationships that we may have a strong past life connection with someone?

Look for the lesson. Are you learning something about yourself? Either in relationship to other people or your own behaviour? If you’re being challenged in some way – either positively or even negatively, this is one sign that there is an important soul connection here. The bigger the challenge and the more you have to grow on a soul level to meet it, then the number of lifetimes you have spent with this person increases. Remember – this goes for negative experiences as well as positive ones because often we learn more from failures than we do our successes.

Is the situation you’re in with this person part of a recurring theme for you? While you may not feel you have known this person before, does the situation you’re in feel oh so familiar? Is history repeating itself in some way yet again? We all come into this lifetime with set learning tasks. Sometimes we learn the lesson the first time – but if we don’t, then we are set to repeat it until we do. If you find yourself back in a situation that is repeating a past experience but with a completely different person then this is another sign of a deep past-life connection. As you failed to learn the lesson in the past, a new ‘teacher’ has appeared. Once you begin to recognise you and not the other person, are the common denominator, you will begin to release the lesson and your situation with them will transform – either by them leaving your life and you will have no more ‘lessons’ of this nature or by your relationship continuing but now on an entirely different level.

Is someone helping you for no apparent reason? Someone gives you a helping hand in some way with no expectation of anything in return. This could be a business mentor, a teacher or someone who offers you something you badly need right when you need it – and doesn’t necessarily expect to be paid back. This is a sure sign that this is someone you have helped in a past life, paying you forward in this one.

Is anything owed or left over after the relationship is over? You owe them something or they owe you. Or they’ve left something with you. This can be anything from a book, to money, a child or even a horse. Whatever it is, you or they aren’t going to get it back or take it back – not in this lifetime anyway!

Remember, past life soul promises are complex but look for these key signs as to clues you may have deep connections to people you wouldn’t have dreamed were that important!


  • benjamin

    i have a friend i made a while ago but before that when we first met we had like this awkword stair and then i asked do i know you and he asked the same thing and we kept trying to figure it out for hours we have never lived in same areas and we have never met but when we where talking he acts just like me in every which way like his personality and mine are the same and he says the same thing about me and its not like i know him as a diffrent person its as if i feal hes me like im him in a way if that makes any sense,it feals like if we where the same person then split into this world as 2 not one dois anybody know what that means my name is benjamin brice mullins the 2nd and his name is eddy gurrea

  • Abhijeet Rautela

    I met this girl at work and looking at her for the first time , I felt like i have known her from a long time back. I tried to approach her, but she didnt respond very well. When I see her eyes I feel a deep connection from the past, I get a familiar sense in my heart and I feel very calm and relaxed whenever I see her or think about her. I dont know how to explain these feelings to her , as she seems to be disturbed whenever i am around and becomes very introvert, I try not to disturb her or annoy her. but I really want to know her and connect with her. Please tell me why I am not able to connect to her.

  • Abhijeet Rautela

    it is possible that you two were twins in the past life, and still feel some connections from that. win telepathy, etc.

  • Michele

    Hello, my mom said the day I was born she felt a spiritual connection, as in she had been waiting for us to reconnect. Is that possible?

  • Janique Cookes

    Read Doctor Brian Weiss twin souls, it will explain that interaction.

  • Dani. D.

    Maybe she is just scared. Maybe she feels the same way, but is not sure, if you do. Or she finds the whole thing confusing and a bit weird. I know that’s how I feel about past life experiences, and meeting up in the next life…all a bit strange. Soul mate, karmic partner, twin flame..etc. It’s all a bit hard to comprehend…confused.

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  • Mary Kolody Moore

    Ok…this is so interesting.

    I have recurrent dreams…and this person seems to be related to them.
    I don’t know that it’s a good connection…the person sort of frightens me…but I have no reason for that fear…but I do seem to have a connection…
    Any insight? Is it just overactive intuition??

  • dax

    wow me and u had the same damn experience lol mine was engaged or married and ran her off.before i realized what i was feeling wasn’t just romantic love.I mean when i first saw her i actually wasn’t sure she was a he or a she and i still didn’t care, and im not gay. Now she is gone and im left with a hole in my heart O_O sad panda