How To Recognise a Past Life Connection

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We’ve all been in the situation where we’ve met someone new but have this immediate and deep connection – sometimes to the point of being able to anticipate what they are going to say next – or feeling as if they’ve been in our life forever. Often this can mean they have been in a spiritual sense as this kind of ‘instant karma’ we feel with certain people is exactly that. A karmic, past life connection and the level of comfort and feeling we already ‘know’ someone is merely our shared history catching up with us and playing out in this lifetime.

These kind of past-life connections are easy to spot but what about others that may also stretch across several lifetimes and involve soul promises, but which may not be quite so obvious? How do we recognise them?

First of all, we need to understand that often the souls with whom we have the deepest connection and with whom we have chosen to learn and grow with are the ones who are there to teach us the most profound lessons. And sometimes these lessons are not easy. Just because you have known one another in a past life does not mean it will all be love and happy endings in this one. There can be many reasons for this. One or both of us can fail to learn the lesson or forgive on a soul level. Until this happens we will keep coming back – like students who have to re-take an exam, until we get it ‘right’. Also, we often have themes we have chosen to work through in this life and we may have several ‘soul mates’ – and I use that term in the broadest possible sense as a ‘soul mate’ is not necessarily a romantic partner but someone with whom we have chosen to form a connection with over several lifetimes; who have chosen to appear at various times in our life in order to help us learn a particular lesson. So, this all this in mind, what are the signs we should look for in even our most challenging relationships that we may have a strong past life connection with someone?

Look for the lesson. Are you learning something about yourself? Either in relationship to other people or your own behaviour? If you’re being challenged in some way – either positively or even negatively, this is one sign that there is an important soul connection here. The bigger the challenge and the more you have to grow on a soul level to meet it, then the number of lifetimes you have spent with this person increases. Remember – this goes for negative experiences as well as positive ones because often we learn more from failures than we do our successes.

Is the situation you’re in with this person part of a recurring theme for you? While you may not feel you have known this person before, does the situation you’re in feel oh so familiar? Is history repeating itself in some way yet again? We all come into this lifetime with set learning tasks. Sometimes we learn the lesson the first time – but if we don’t, then we are set to repeat it until we do. If you find yourself back in a situation that is repeating a past experience but with a completely different person then this is another sign of a deep past-life connection. As you failed to learn the lesson in the past, a new ‘teacher’ has appeared. Once you begin to recognise you and not the other person, are the common denominator, you will begin to release the lesson and your situation with them will transform – either by them leaving your life and you will have no more ‘lessons’ of this nature or by your relationship continuing but now on an entirely different level.

Is someone helping you for no apparent reason? Someone gives you a helping hand in some way with no expectation of anything in return. This could be a business mentor, a teacher or someone who offers you something you badly need right when you need it – and doesn’t necessarily expect to be paid back. This is a sure sign that this is someone you have helped in a past life, paying you forward in this one.

Is anything owed or left over after the relationship is over? You owe them something or they owe you. Or they’ve left something with you. This can be anything from a book, to money, a child or even a horse. Whatever it is, you or they aren’t going to get it back or take it back – not in this lifetime anyway!

Remember, past life soul promises are complex but look for these key signs as to clues you may have deep connections to people you wouldn’t have dreamed were that important!


  • benjamin

    i have a friend i made a while ago but before that when we first met we had like this awkword stair and then i asked do i know you and he asked the same thing and we kept trying to figure it out for hours we have never lived in same areas and we have never met but when we where talking he acts just like me in every which way like his personality and mine are the same and he says the same thing about me and its not like i know him as a diffrent person its as if i feal hes me like im him in a way if that makes any sense,it feals like if we where the same person then split into this world as 2 not one dois anybody know what that means my name is benjamin brice mullins the 2nd and his name is eddy gurrea

  • Abhijeet Rautela

    I met this girl at work and looking at her for the first time , I felt like i have known her from a long time back. I tried to approach her, but she didnt respond very well. When I see her eyes I feel a deep connection from the past, I get a familiar sense in my heart and I feel very calm and relaxed whenever I see her or think about her. I dont know how to explain these feelings to her , as she seems to be disturbed whenever i am around and becomes very introvert, I try not to disturb her or annoy her. but I really want to know her and connect with her. Please tell me why I am not able to connect to her.

  • Abhijeet Rautela

    it is possible that you two were twins in the past life, and still feel some connections from that. win telepathy, etc.

  • Michele

    Hello, my mom said the day I was born she felt a spiritual connection, as in she had been waiting for us to reconnect. Is that possible?

  • Janique Cookes

    Read Doctor Brian Weiss twin souls, it will explain that interaction.

  • Dani. D.

    Maybe she is just scared. Maybe she feels the same way, but is not sure, if you do. Or she finds the whole thing confusing and a bit weird. I know that’s how I feel about past life experiences, and meeting up in the next life…all a bit strange. Soul mate, karmic partner, twin flame..etc. It’s all a bit hard to comprehend…confused.

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  • Mary Kolody Moore

    Ok…this is so interesting.

    I have recurrent dreams…and this person seems to be related to them.
    I don’t know that it’s a good connection…the person sort of frightens me…but I have no reason for that fear…but I do seem to have a connection…
    Any insight? Is it just overactive intuition??

  • dax

    wow me and u had the same damn experience lol mine was engaged or married and ran her off.before i realized what i was feeling wasn’t just romantic love.I mean when i first saw her i actually wasn’t sure she was a he or a she and i still didn’t care, and im not gay. Now she is gone and im left with a hole in my heart O_O sad panda

  • Cassie Anne

    Thank you for this thread, I’m a long time too late for a reply now, but I never searched for advice on this before.
    I have six soulmates, others like me that have been part of my every moment and thought since I came into being. They are all from another place and another time, and maybe I won’t see them again until I leave this one.
    Maybe I will never see them again.

    I can love, here and now, but the love I have here for everyone is never as deep as it was back then. The family I was born into this time around, and the partners I’ve had, I just can’t say I feel that same deep connection with anyone else in this world.

    I’m always half here, half lost out there somewhere, as if once my soul was alive and buzzing with movement and colour and now it’s silent and still like an undisturbed pool, waiting for the only ones who can step into it and bring life to it again.

    It is a lonely place to be.

  • Pamela Booker


  • Pamela Booker

    God told you , as he knew you loved him.

  • Pamela Booker

    God blessed you with his Angels for you to be with him always and forever. Praise God. not all Get this confirmation. Unless you really Love deep from the pit of your soul. No question , unconditional Loved you had for him, rather good or bad. Jesus’s love.

  • Harish Chandra Uraon

    Hi..just now I have gone through your article, I’m from india my name is Harish I want to share my experience that I had in my heart since last 30, 35 years…
    No budy will belive that I have a crush / feelings or love I don’t know what ? With a girl since childhood, that is when we both were in KG class/nursery at that time was not knowing the difference of girl or boy but some feeling was there . She left our school and gone to other school when we are in class 5th . We were not a best friend ever eventhough I never forgotten her and occasionally I used to go to her home till last year.
    I never expressed my feeling to her ever .Now we both are married and we both have kids but she in my mind /heart every time. Some time we meet we have very casual talk but full body is shivering like any thing when she comes near me.some time i used to call her or send formal massage but she never replied. Only once she called me in 2008 only to inform that she got married .i never told het that I ever liked her or love her , I’m sure she don’t now all this . When ever we see each other we have only formal talk but why she avoid me all the time.

  • mason dollen

    I am an Asian Indian ethnicity (born and live in the United States) sixteen years old girl (first generation out of india so I have close ties to India still) and I thought NO ONE IN THE WORLD FEELS LIKE I DO. THANK YOU FOR POSTING THIS. You don’t understand how happy and serious I am at the moment. There has been a guy stuck in my mind for eight years so far. He has moved away to India like 3 years ago and I also moved to another state around two and a half years ago and now live somewhere else and have totally different friends and have forgotten many people like you but I think of this one guy every single second of my life. The first time I saw this guy was when I was done with second grade and it was summer vacation. We were on a play train ride at a birthday party. I was sitting all by myself and out of nowhere this little three year old comes up to the area where I was sitting and gently taps with me with his toy and I look up and smile at him and then I see his older brother (the one stuck in my head) and I feel something (like a spark) but just don’t know what it is about him. I never really thought about him much after that. But then school started again and I was going to third grade and then I saw him again and trust me I knew this kid didn’t go to my school before, so he must of been new. I saw him for the second time on the playground playing American football with his friends and that’s when I felt even something more deep for this kid. (I didn’t say this in the beginning but I never before this ever paid attention to a boy like that nor have I even thought about liking a guy before or even having a crush in my life). I also didn’t too much attention to him since he had a different teacher than me. But than one day, my father says that we are going to a dinner party and the party is hosted by one of his long time close friends that he has known from India and had moved to the USA around the same time as when my dad and mom moved to the USA. When I went I was shocked to see that my father’s close friend’s son was the guy that I felt some connection to. I was never able to talk to him like how I did with other boys and girls in my class because every time I saw him I would be filled with different emotions and feelings and would be very mixed up in what I wanted to say. After that in fourth grade he was in my class and we had the same teacher. In seventh grade he moved to India. I was kind of heart broken but I don’t know why. Some times I feel like I am deeply in love with him but other times I am so confused. I still remember the little things about him like his favorite flavor of candy and his favorite songs and indian moves. and many other little things. I can remember his face so clearly and I always think of him. If I was to note down in a note book every time I thought of him, My hand would probably hurt from writing so much and the notebooks would be filled up quickly. Even when I am writing this I have an aching feeling in my heart like there is some deep secret that my heart and soul is hiding from me about him. Is this true love from different lives that has been continuing or what is this crazy connection that I feel. How come he doesn’t feel the same way about me? I have been searching for years and going crazy online and have taken bunch of quizzes to see what was wrong with me and I still don’t know.

  • Loretta Taylor

    Jermaine Gillespie in Chicago janitor I wish I never saw here in this life time or no other life time future pass or moment. Plus we have a baby together why? He watches and study me and never say nothing. I did love him and steal due he is a player pimp. I did get dreams before we hooked up it trip me out. He the only one I saw in the spirit coming my way what a nightmare . We are soo not close but we no each other in spirit. he want to be with me in spirit but not natural crazy! then after we hook up saw bad finish now I am talking two good duds I don’t like in a sexual way one nice the other super smart. I talking to them for attention only plus I am hurting trying to heal. don’t want to neither one. Me and by baby daddy upset why we cross path frfr peace .